WELCOME TO RAPE CULTURE!!

I have been trying to write this post for about 5 months. It's incredibly difficult because I don't know where to start and once I do start, it's impossible to stop.

So I'm going to break it up into parts. Think of this post as the outline. 

First up: Things I'm Pissed I Have To Explain To My Future Daughter.


1.) We live in a society where if you were drinking, dressed a certain way, had a certain number of sexual partners, or hung out with the "wrong" crowd and you are raped- it's all your fault. 

The media will debate whether or not your rapist should be punished for forcing you to have sex with him. Because, in this world- a woman's body is not her own. It's her family's, her husband's, her god's, the freakin' government's- but NOT hers. We will dig up your personal history and show the world your private messages, the the number of men you slept with in your life, your sexual preferences and we will use it against you as an excuse for your rapist's actions. We may even "accidentally" leak your name to the press...whoops. 

We will allow lawyers to call an 11 year old girl who was gang raped on tape by over 20 men to be called a "spider luring the men into her web". She was mature for her age (really?) and she asked for it. She wanted it. Because, 11 year olds can totally give consent- they need to be accompanied to a PG-13 movie, but they are responsible for being raped. *SLAMS HEAD ON TABLE*

We will let the media run stories on how "terribly emotional and difficult" it was to watch two boys "with bright and promising futures" be convicted of the rape they committed. These are the same boys who laughed when their friends said and tweeted: "Song of the night is definitely Rape Me by Nirvana" and "Some people deserve to be peed on"," they raped her quicker than Mike Tyson raped that one girl" and "They peed on her. That's how you know she's dead, because someone pissed on her.". Yeah, I feel awful about them being found guilty, too. They really seem like gems....NOT. GAG.

2.) We will continue to vote for politicians who make public, nonsensical, UNTRUE statements about pregnancy resulting from rape like, "If it's a legitimate rape, the female body has ways to try to shut that whole thing down." Yes because my uterus is a machine and it shuts down when it pleases. I feel really, really bad for your wife. 

Don't forget Richard Mourdock's good information, "Life is that gift from God that I think even if life begins in that horrible situation of rape, that it is something that God intended to happen." Your God intends for rape to happen? Please tell me more about your religion so I can stay as far away from it as possible :)

Also, Roger Rivard's father's insightful, wise, advice that "Some girls rape easy". 

And then there was Tom Smith, who related being raped to having a child out of wedlock. Because being violated on the most personal level is JUST like having a baby out of wedlock. 

3.) We listen to music like this:

Eminem-Stay Wide Awake
 "Sit down beside her like a spider, hi there girl, you mighta
Heard of me before, see wh**e, you're the kind of girl that I'd assault
And rape then figure why not try not to make your p**sy wider?"

DMX- X is Coming
"Tryin' to send the bitch back to her maker
And if you got a daughter older then 15, I'mma rape her
Take her on the living room floor, right there in front of you
Then ask you seriously, whatchu wanna do?""

Dr. Dre- Bitches Aint Shit
"Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks/ Lick on these nu** and suck the d*** / Get's the f**k out after you're done / And I hops in my ride to make a quick run."

I have more examples, but I honestly can't stomach reading some of these lyrics to go through them all. The SICKEST PART is Dr. Dre, Eminem, and DMX all have daughters. I hope they ask their dads why the hell they would say something so disgusting about women. 

4.) We buy products with ads like this:

Yes, rape just makes me want to go buy things. 

5.) This got 19,000 likes when it was first put on the internet. 

6.) Facebook only took down the following page titled "You Know She's Playing Hard To Get When You're Chasing Her Down An Alley" after 15 companies threatened to pull their advertisements from the site and over 200,000 people signed a petition. But first they responded to complaints about the page with THIS:

"It is very important to point out that what one person finds offensive another can find entertaining, just as telling a rude joke won't get you thrown out of your local pub, it won't get you thrown off Facebook," Yeah because the  statements below, are just offensive to you and can be entertaining to someone else. OH OKAY GREAT, yeah threatening a girl with a knife is SOOOOOO ENTERTAINING HAHAHAHAHAHA. NO.

• "What's 10 inches and gets girls to have sex with me? My knife."
• "Abducting, raping and violently murdering your friend, as a joke"
• "Don't You Hate it When You Punch a Slut in the Mouth and They Suck It"
• "kicking sluts in the Vagina" 

THIS IS RAPE CULTURE. THIS IS THE WORLD WE ARE RAISING OUR CHILDREN IN. What are WE going to do to stop it?

 I'm actually tired and want to curl up in a ball and cry. Forever.